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How do you do it?

I’m a working mother, I work 4 days a week and have had my job for 6 years. After both of my children I returned to work relatively early (7 months). Working gives me balance and purpose. Plus, I like contributing to our household income and setting an example for Hudson and Scarlett. However, the older they get the more I am struggling. 

My work has a policy where I am meant to return to work full time when Scarlett is at school. This is still a few years away but it’s a concept that I struggle to get my head around. School isn’t like daycare. The hours are much shorter. I often lay awake worrying hiw this will work? How on earth is this managable? Can I be present for my children, get them to after school activities, help with homework and be the mum I want to be. All of this while working 40 hours a week (with a 2 hour commute each day)??? If anything this is a time where they really need me to be there for them. 

My husband runs his own business so his hours are long and ge can’t do drop offs or pick ups, he also doesn’t get paid annual leave. This means before and after school care with school holiday programs. I can get some help from family, but again I don’t want to be the mum that is never there. 

How on earth do parents manage? Working full time, children, homework, food shopping, cleaning, washing, cooking, activities, family time and friends. Is it even possible? Cost of living is expensive so its really just not as easy as throwing in the towel and saying ‘I quit.’ 

It appears in our quest to have and do it all we have found ourselves in some sort of crazy situation where it is impossible.

I’m so thankful for my job and healthy children. In no way am I whinging. I’m simply asking the question. Is it even possible? Will I regret these choices later in life? Will my children resent their mother who was always rushing around and busy?  I want to be there for my babies while they still need me. 

Other working mums, how do you do it? 

Rachelle xx 

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WHAT DO YOU MEAN NO ELECTRONICS? www.hashtagparenting.net

These days we have iPods, iPads, iPhones, desktops, laptops – oh for real? How much more can one household take??

Don’t get me wrong I am not anti-technology, I understand its place in today’s society but the question I ask is “Do we need it all the time?”  Well, in our house the answer is NO!  That’s right folks, Monday – Friday (afternoon) there are no devices and computer use is strictly limited to homework only.

“Gasp!” I hear, “What do you mean no electronics?”  I mean devices are switched off and stored on a very visible shelf in the kitchen (because that’s where I spend the majority of my days) and the TV is turned off at the power point.

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This has been our rule from the get go, because what happens if electronics are available 24-7…

  • Books don’t get read.
  • Pictures don’t get drawn.
  • Legs don’t get exercised.
  • Balls don’t get thrown, kicked or passed.

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Now since electronics are restricted what happens…

  • Conversations are had.
  • Outdoor games are played.
  • Dice are rolled.
  • Most importantly, lots and lots of books get read!

This is not to say come Saturday and Sunday it is 48 hours straight of electronic games and TV watching.  We have limits and the kids understand this. Screen time is usually one hour each day with a movie Saturday night.

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If you are consistent the kids will get it. If your rules keep changing, they’ll get confused.  If the rules apply to everyone, no one bothers to ask if they can have a turn because they know the answer.

Believe me, there is enough computer use at school, some allocated time on weekends and during the holidays so the kids get their “fix”.  I believe it is important to:

  • Keep them active
  • Keep them thinking
  • Keep them being creative

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Everything has its role to play and for me one of my roles is “Designated Electronic Device Manager”.  In the end, everyone is happy and no one misses out!

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