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Awareness for Kody

My names Brooke and I’m a mum of three from London.

I was 18 when I had my first baby, Jayden. I had a straight forward pregnancy only suffering with extremely low iron, causing me to constantly be tired. I had a natural, straight forward delivery, and Jayden was born at 38 weeks weighing 6lb 12oz.

I was 20 when I had my second baby, my daughter Lexxi.  My pregnancy was completely different from my first one. I didn’t feel pregnant. People told me I didn’t look pregnant, I was really small.  When I was about 6 and a half months pregnant a family member told me I looked like I had slept heavy, little did I know it was me starting to swell up. After weeks of constantly swelling I went doctors and was rushed to the hospital as my blood pressure was too high. I had pre eclampsia, something I’d never heard of. My daughter was born at 33 weeks weighing 3lb 1oz. She had to be tube fed for roughly a month and she came home before her due date. She’s now 5 with no complications.

In 2016 I had my son Kody at 27 plus one, again due to me suffering with severe pre eclampsia. Kody had a slight bleed on his brain but within a few weeks it corrected itself. Kody had extremely severe chronic lung disease and was put on various breathing supports, Kody also suffered with numerous infections as his lungs were too weak to cope with anything, even routine immunisations.

Kody made it to the high dependency unit a few times but always ended up back in intensive care, we were told numerous times that Kody might not make it.

Kody went to great ormond street hospital to see if there was an underlying problem but there wasn’t. He ended up going to a lung and heart specialist hospital in Chelsea.
As Kodys lungs were so bad they started putting pressure on his heart causing him to suffer with pulmonary hypertension. Kody was ventilator dependent so he had a tracheostomy to see if he could eventually come home on a portable ventilator. Kody was heavily sedated and muscle relaxed on many occasions. Kodys lungs were getting worse, he was on the highest pressure that the ventilator could give and his body still wasn’t receiving enough oxygen.

My beautiful baby lived until he was 7 months and one day. I’m now trying to raise awareness in Kodys name for these conditions. I have an Instagram account – @awarenessforkody.
Facebook/AwarenessForKody
I’m doing ‘Kodys story’ a little journey book for the hospitals and hospice we stayed in.
I have ribbons & hair accessories which if people donate money towards I’m giving it to either the hospitals or one of the causes close to my heart.  I also have many other projects I’m going to do to hopefully raise awareness.

Thank you – Brooke xxxxx
My baby Kody ❤️

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Guest Blog -Sharna  @jameshealthjourney

Hello all…

So Rachelle said, ‘write about something you’re passionate about’. Equality and inclusion for all!!! That’s it, that’s what I am truly passionate about. 

Let me introduce myself to you. My name is Sharna, my labels include wife, mother, ballet teacher and autism advocate. 

I am the mother of two beautiful little souls, James (4 years old) and Scarlett ( 2 years old). They are the apple of my eye, my greatest achievement!  I never thought that motherhood would ever fulfil my soul, I thought nothing could ever replace the passion of dance that I held so dear to my heart for many years. 

Motherhood has not only fulfilled my soul but it has given me a fierce perspective of what is right. 

Having a child with additional needs has made me loud, proud and determined to spread awareness for not only autism, not only special needs but inclusion for all.

You see we are all different.

We love different, we learn different, we see the world differently. Being different from another shouldn’t mean exclusion or disrespect. Being different should be embraced. 

Every single person regardless of religion, race, sexuality or ability should be embraced.

You see we all have something to offer the world we live in.

When my son James was diagnosed on the autism spectrum at age 3 I was determined to show the world his abilities. The day he was diagnosed was the day my voice got loud. Not only for James but for all that need inclusion.  It’s really mind blowing the amount of narrow minds that still walk amongst us today. I encounter many, believe me. It gets me down it truly does. 

My son at age 4 has learnt all too well the disrespect of others, he is 4. He sees it and he feels it. He feels it deeper than us, he knows he is different but teaching him he is not less than when you encounter such ignorance is hard. It’s hard on him and it’s hard on my mummy soul. 

Ignorance doesn’t make me stop, it makes me fight harder…. louder and stronger. 

I wanted to ask you today to think about the world around you.  Embrace, encourage and include all of those that are ‘different’ around you. 

We are one world. One love.

Much love, 

Sharna xx  @jameshealthjourney

www.jameshealthjourney.com

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Feature mum Q&A – Rachel @insta.beauty.mummy 

Rachel is a beautiful, stylish working mum of two little boys (Max and Leo). She has an amazing Instagram account where she gives us some wonderful tips and tricks with make-up and beauty products. I had the opportunity to ask her some questions.  

Hey Rachel welcome to The Mummy Code, tell us a little bit about yourself and your family.

  • What do you enjoy most about being a mum? Watching your children grow and adapt their own little personalities. I find it fascinating how much they learn and just how individual they actually are. I also can’t go past their cuddles and smooches! THE BEST! 
  • What do you find the hardest? I can be quite impatient at times, so trying to keep calm when they are pressing my buttons is probably what I find the hardest.  
  • How do you balance work and mum life? I don’t know to be honest! I think it probably helps that I am super organised and like order. I actually love the balance of my career and being a mum. I get great satisfaction from the both and I wouldn’t change it. I also hope it sets a great example for my children that women can be mums, but can also have a successful career, and on the same token, dads can also have their careers but parenting and housework is a shared responsibility. 
  • What are you three makeup or beauty products that you can’t live without? Haha! Just 3? OK here they: 1. Fake tan. 2. Lash extensions. 3. Concealer. 
  • Tanning hints or tips? Exfoliate really well the day before tanning, and use cetaphil lotion every day to stop it from cracking or fading. 
  • Who is your style icon? Hard one but probably Jessica Alba. She is effortless chic, down to earth, gorgeous on the inside also and a career woman as well as being a mum. 
  • What is your favourite way to spend time as a family? We have absolutely been loving the pool lately. The boys are at a really good age to enjoy it and they have an absolute ball. Watching them laugh and play all day long is priceless. 

Thank you for answering my questions. 

Rachelle xx 

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Feature Mummy – Ange (@activeandstrong)

​Ange is a personal trainer, mum of two very spunky little boys and one of my best friends. She has recently started her own personal training business Active and Strong. I asked her some questions about working out and losing baby weight.

What made you want to make the career change to personal training?

Well, before I was a Personal Trainer, I was a Swimming Instructor. I’ve always enjoyed “teaching skills” so I wanted to expand on that and seeing as though I’ve always had an interest in exercise,it seemed like a natural progression. I’m so glad I made that choice because now I get to help women by teaching them what needs to be done to achieve whatever their goals may be.

How do you stay motivated to work out with two little boys to run around after?

I view exercise as a privilege rather than a chore so it’s easy to do something that I enjoy. My kids are always watching me and I feel as though I’m setting a good example for them for when they get older. I try to include them aswell and often we’ll make a game out of it like, “Let’s see who can do the most jumping jacks?” I will never know what tomorrow will bring so whilst I’m capable of moving my body, I’m going to make the most of it. I also include activities that I really enjoy. Running is not one of my favourite forms of cardio so instead I go swimming which I absolutely Love.

How long did it take you to lose baby weight and do you have any tips for other mums?

Ooooo that’s a good one. I don’t actually know at what point I returned to my pre-baby weight?

I’m estimating it was about 9 months to a year. I put on 28kgs with both pregnancies. I wasn’t active during my pregnancies and my favourite treat was a slurpee… or 3! If I could give any form of advice for Mums trying to lose their baby weight, I would say give it time. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself and enjoy those moments with your new baby. If you want to lose the weight, it will happen…. in time. New Mums should wait until their 7 week postpartum checkup before engaging in exercise so don’t rush out and join a bootcamp or buy an online program before this stage.

Did you work out when you were pregnant?

No I actually didn’t. I lapped up every second of relaxing on the couch that I could. However, if I were to have another baby, I would definitely stay active during my pregnancy. Just after having my second son, we discovered that I had DVT (Deep Vein Thrombosis) in my calf. This resulted in 7 weeks of blood thinning injections into my stomach twice a day. Not fun! It was at this point that the Doctors told me that I needed to include exercise into my lifestyle on a regular basis to ensure my blood flows smoothly.

What is your favourite workout?

I absolutely love ab and core exercises! I also have a soft spot for a workout called “Tabata”. It’s an interval form of training, meaning you work for a certain amount and then rest and repeat. It raises your metabolism for up to 24hours after the workout which means you’re still burning calories while watching Real Housewives of Beverly Hills. Who wouldn’t love that!

There are all sorts of theories about when is the best time to work out. Do you find it more beneficial to work out in the morning or afternoon?

Yep, you’re right there is a lot of theories on the best time to workout. Working out in the morning before breakfast is called working out on a fasting state. Your body looks for a fuel source and it will go for your fat stores. Sounds good doesn’t it? Well I wouldn’t actually recommend it for everyone. It’s going to be a hard workout and you’re going to tire easily because you don’t have any carbohydrates (the bodies most easily accessible source of energy) to give you that boost of energy to not only get through the workout but to do each exercise with the correct form and concentration. I wouldn’t recommend working out in the morning without breakfast if you’re a beginner because I doubt you’ll find it enjoyable and will probably not want to exercise again with the preconception that every workout will be that difficult. My clients are mostly Mothers so I recommend to them to workout when it suits them. It may be during the kids nap time, or when they’re at school or kinder. Maybe it’s when hubby gets home after work. Whenever it is, make it a time that suits you.

Do you follow any sort of diet?

No, I don’t. Anyone that knows me will know that I’m a sucker for sweets. I’m a believer in everything in moderation and yes that means sugar and carbs too. I’ll eat healthy dinners one night and then I’ll have takeaway the next. I never feel guilty about it because I enjoy all sorts of food and I don’t want to spend my life on a never ending diet.

On average how often do you work out? Also, do you split weight sessions and cardio?

I try to workout four-five times per week. I’m happy with my weight so I’m exercising purely for the enjoyment, health benefits and staying active with my kids. I do split my cardio and weight days. Full body weight days should not be done one day after the next as you need 24hrs to allow your body to recover. So some weeks I’ll do 3 days of weights and 1 cardio whereas other weeks I’ll do 2 days of weights and 2 days of cardio. I like to change it up and keep it interesting.

What is your ultimate cheat meal?

I don’t really do “cheat meals” but I certainly do sweets! I love chocolate, cheesecake or a white wine paired with soft cheese. Yummmm!

Who is one woman who inspires you and why?

I’ve always admired Cameron Diaz and her ability to constantly stay active and select activities that she really enjoys such as yoga and stand up paddle boarding. I’m also inspired by every single woman who is doing everything in their power to become active. It can be tough but their commitment to taking that first step is so wonderful to see.

Thank you so much for taking the time to answer my questions.

If you would like to join Active and Strong, Ange is offering a discount of 10% for anyone who mentions The Mummy Code when they book their position in a Group Fitness Session beginningTuesday 21st February 2017 at Yarrunga Community Centre, Croydon Hills Vic

Rachelle xx

 

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Guest Blog – Candice @theworkingmumma

Why did you become a nurse? That is a question I LOVE answering. It’s not the usual, ‘oh I finished year 12 and decided to go to Uni and do nursing.’ It’s a story I hold deep in my heart. There is nothing wrong with the above statement! But my reason is a little different…

Let me take you back 10 years ago when I was 18 years old, I was driving like a mad women, running red lights towards our local hospital. I had a phone call from my dad that turned me into that lunatic driver, ‘Candice, it’s nana, she’s not well, you need to get here now.’ I rushed to the local ED to find my nana on stretcher in the hallway, I ran up to her, tears in my eyes, panic in my heart and cuddled her, sobbing into her neck. She told me she was sick, it wasn’t looking good. I stupidly panicked and told her I loved her, that I’d never forget her and promised to name my daughter after her. It was at that moment she stopped me in my tracks – pushed me back and said these exact words, ‘don’t be so BLOODY STUPID! I have a horrible name’ She wasn’t entirely wrong; Betty Peggy Olive Tarrant – what was my great grandma thinking?

Anyway, fast forward 3 weeks to the day my nana died. In the local private hospital (which I now work at – and still can’t bring myself to work in that ward) with the family around her. The care the nurses gave us, the care they gave my nana, touched my soul. She passed away peacefully with mum and I at her side, holding her hand. I walked out to the nurses and said I thought she was gone, they came in and confirmed it. The love they showed mum and I was something I can never thank them enough for and the compassion they showed my lifeless nana was beautiful. They still talked to her, touched her tenderly. I left the hospital at 3am a changed person.

I was enrolled into Uni to become an accountant, I am good with numbers and love business; but that night something inside me decided helping people make money was not what I wanted to do. I needed to give care to people the way the nurses gave care to my family and my nana. I applied to do nursing that year and started the following year. I wanted to care for dying people and their families.

So, why did I become a nurse? Because my nana died and the nurses were amazing.

I finished uni and ended up in Intensive Care. My passion. It’s not called Intensive Care for any old reason. The care is intense, the emotions are intense, the body of the patient is under intense pressure to fight. It’s a special place to work. I have many tales to tell about my time there; the first time I did CPR, the time first I heard a mother scream when her son died; the first time I had a patient get so sick that they needed to be put into a coma, the first time I cried with a family, the first time I saw a miracle, the first time I saw a patient walk out of the unit after the medical staff thought it would never happen again, the first time I saw a wife smile because her husband was getting better and also the first time I met Kyle.

I worked in ICU for three and a half years when I decided it was time for a change. Making that decision broke my heart, but I needed a change. Kyle and I were wanting a family and the 12hr shifts were going to be hard, we worked half night shift (7.30pm – 8am) and half day shift (7.30am – 8pm) which would mean I would be going a whole day without seeing my baby. I looked into other areas of nursing and found cosmetic nursing, I did a Post Graduate Degree and once finished I fell pregnant. I waited until after my baby (William) was born and started applying for jobs in the cosmetic industry. During my course we had injecting days and the educators always told me I was a natural and I loved it. Me, as a person, would have loved to stay in ICU, but me, the partner & mother, needed to leave. My compromise to myself was to stay casual in ICU to get my ‘fix’ and work my permanent job as a cosmetic injector.

I love the Cosmetic nursing, people often look at the industry as vain, but my view is; I am trying to reconnect people to who they feel like on the inside, to who they look like on the outside. Yes, people come in to get lips done, but who are we to judge people? If they are doing it for themselves then that’s great! I often get mothers in their 30’s – 40’s saying: it’s time for me now, I have given so much that it’s time for me to indulge – GO them!!

Working office hours with a bubba boy who is only 7 months old is hard work. I try my best to balance it out but there are days when I feel guilty, days when I miss my baby. But I love work so much that it’s my time. How I balance it is that I organise the night before as much as I can for the proceeding days (I work 3 days a week); I meal prep, I pre cut veg/salad/meat to spend minimal time in the kitchen and I also make sure William has fresh healthy food ready, that makes me feel good to know I am still caring for him while I am away. I do all this once he goes to bed so I am not taking time away from him.

On days where I finish at 5.30pm, Kyle (my fiancé) knows to keep William up and let me do the bedtime routine. Another thing I do is on my days off, I spend all my time with my little man. I just make sure I get quality time with him. It’s taken a while to find balance and there have been times I have cried because I miss William. Of course he doesn’t care! He spends his days with his grandparents and adores them, he doesn’t go to daycare yet.

Becoming a mummy has been the best thing that has ever happened to me, but being a nurse is also something that is deeply engraved into my soul. Being a working mum is easy when you’re passionate about you job.

 Candice @theworkingmumma 

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Guest blog – It wasn’t love at first sight for everyone

When I fell pregnant with my second baby I was over the moon as my fertility specialist said it was likely the embryo wouldn’t take because it was the first frozen transfer and the success rates weren’t great. But during the two week wait; and some of us know how painful and anxiety driven that two week wait is, I experienced some pregnancy symptoms. I was feeling nauseous, I had tightness and was tired; I just felt pregnant. I was so tempted to take a pregnancy test but didn’t want to incase the results were negative and we would be heartbroken more than once. We waited and received the phone call from my doctor (with my clinic, I knew that an earlier phone call in the afternoon was a good one as they ring all the successful pregnancies first and leave the difficult phone calls for later on – I have experienced those phone calls too). The news was good. My husband and I were so happy. Thrilled. My doctor also couldn’t believe it given the success rates of frozen embryos. He was so happy for us.

My pregnancy went along pretty well. I had a couple of hiccups with bleeding and in hospital a couple of times on short-stay bed rest but absolutely nothing major like some women go through. I was really excited moving through the pregnancy but also wondered how my life would change with two babies and not just parenting my little Matilda. Matilda would be just over 18 months when the baby arrived and I was a little concerned about how I would cope considering I had a little PND after Matilda was born. I didn’t want to go down that path again and I was adamant about changing my mindset and the words I spoke about how I was going to cope and for me, I think that really helped alleviate some self-doubt.

The day arrived when Master Charlie came into our lives. He was the spitting image of his dad and was just delightful. My family visited and everyone was really happy about meeting Charlie and then Jason bought Matilda in. Being 18 months of age and not really understanding what had just happened she wasn’t so happy about Charlie arriving. She wasn’t loving, she pushed him away, she kept saying “no” and I thought oh my goodness, what have we done? Maybe we should have waited a bit, but in the infertility world, your choices of when you want to have a baby are pretty slim. My initial reaction when we first discovered what our infertility issues were, was, lets get things moving along and get this show on the road as time was not on our side.

The jump from one to two kids was big, for me. Even though I knew what to expect second time around, it was hard finding balance in caring for a newborn and a toddler. Thankfully Charlie was a great newborn; my anxiety was around giving time to Matilda and not getting frustrated with her little tantrums and outbursts knowing that all she really wanted was her mum. It probably took Matilda a couple of months for her to really show some affection towards her little brother. I noticed it once when I picked her up from childcare and the staff were looking at little Charlie and she was saying “my brother” and being super protective.

Jason and I had to be really conscious of spending one on one time with Matilda. He had already started taking Matilda out on breakfast dates when I was pregnant and that increased once Charlie had arrived to every Saturday. Daddy daughter dates were just the best. She loved it and was much happier when she came home and was more settled. Charlie and I joined the breakfast dates once Matilda paid her brother some more attention and we could both spend time with her.

Whilst the first few months were tough having a baby second time around was much easier than having my first as I knew what to expect for most of the part and making sure I got enough sleep really helped. Jason was such a great support and helped with night feeds so that I could get uninterrupted sleep until the 4am feed. Looking back now I wouldn’t change our decision to get the ball rolling with our IVF journey and Matilda and Charlie are great buddies now and play so well together. I know there will be fights and arguing between them as they grow but I really hope and pray they will be the best of friends and support and love each other through life’s challenges. So it wasn’t love at first sight for Miss M but now she is one protective sister and wants everyone to know that Charlie is her little brother.

Sass.xo

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Chontel Duncan – Feature Mummy

Chontel Duncan is fit, busy and now super mum to baby Miah. I had the opportunity to ask her some questions.

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Photo: Instagram @chontelduncan

Welcome Chontel and congratulations on the birth of Miah. He is a real cutie. 

How are you finding motherhood? I am thoroughly enjoying it, Ive always wanted to be a mum (i still want 4 children eventually) and it is exactly what i visioned it would be. Having a little human of my own that i can bring up, protect, educate, teach right from wrong & i guess in a way feel like i now have a REAL soul purpose in life is such an unreal feeling.

What is the best part about being a mum? Those mornings when they wake up all groggy & just want a cuddle to help them finish waking up…. OMG that melts my heart and makes getting up each morning that more exciting. Planing a future with Miah now being apart of it, is really motivating & gets me so pumped for life. 

Tell us about your business? HIIT Australia is a class based fitness center that specializes in  Transformation programs designed to help others change their lifestyles whilst achieving insane results. We gain all this through Muay Thai Kickboxing & Strength & conditioning using raw athletic movement. We then incorporate it with our HIIT nutrition & offer Personal Training services, so combined the content & services provided complement eachother so well & deliver incredible life changing results.

How do you stay organised with work and a new bub. Any tips? I have to pre plan ahead, food prep on Sundays, diary every commitment into my electronic diary, i always have a packed nappy bag with all the essentials in each car as my emergency bag if ever i had to rush off. I have two make up bags, two GHDs & two hair dryers one is always at home & the other of each are kept in my office, so if i train or am running late i dont have to stress about my essentials to get ready for the day. Mind you i sometimes just dont worry about make-up & chuck my hair up into a bun. 

How did you stay fit during your pregnancy? I was very grateful to have had a safe healthy pregnancy with no complications that would prevent me from continuing my active lifestyle. I looked at that as being EXTREMELY grateful so i didnt take this for granted. I made sure i made no excuses, i listened to my body so i never caused injury & i always had the mentality that my body was designed to be pregnant & that pregnancy is NOT a disease.

What’s your ultimate cheat meal? Mushroom Burger from Grilled, Beer battered chips or Chicken Twisties (obsessed)

Thanks for taking the time to answer my questions. Keep up the good work and ignore any negativity. You’re doing an amazing job!

Rachelle xx

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Photos: Instagram @chontelduncan

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Guest Blog: A little bit about me, my clinic & Archer Naturals ..

With 12 years clinical experience, I didn’t start out knowing exactly what I wanted to specialise in, I just knew I wanted to be a Naturopath.

I had a passion for women & children’s health, having treated and gone through my own hurdles, you start to attract what you love doing the best.

Soon enough I had a thriving wellness clinic- Lifestyle Health,  with women of all ages looking for help with their hormones, Infertility, Pregnancy & everything beyond.

My passion for natural health hasn’t stopped growing over the years and with each milestone in my own life, my vision and goals for business and the opportunities have continued to expand.

My brain never stops thinking or creating!

Becoming pregnant myself was a turning point, I needed products, but wherever I looked, no one seemed to be able to give me the answers I needed. The more mothers I asked, the more I became aware that their was a gap in the market, this is where Archer Naturals began….

Parents just want the best for their children, including myself, So I set out to create a brand that was natural, affordable and safe but most importantly, effective too.  Natural products that we need for our children’s health that doesn’t necessarily mean body lotion or nappy balm, but daily essentials like a natural stop itch cream or Insect repellent, so we created Archer Naturals Soothe it & our best seller, Aussie Mozi to fill this gap in the market.

It’s not always about having this ideal organic lifestyle living on the farm in the pastures, sometimes it’s just about limiting your children’s exposure to nasty chemicals, food additives and pollutants where possible.

Our range of natural skincare products, we’ve taken the hidden nasties but we are still able to  incorporate the essential botanical and herbal ingredients formulated to work, while eliminating the exposure of chemicals to your little ones, creating a healthier more natural environment.

Website – www.archernaturals.com.au

Facebook – www.facebook.com/archernaturals/

Instagram – http://www.instagram.com/archernaturals/

 

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Stacey – Archer Naturals

 

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Everyday Autism series – Guest Blog

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The Everyday Autism series sprang from a request from Madi’s Kinder teacher who asked if there was anything she could do, or anything she needed to know to help Madi succeed and enjoy herself at Kinder, and to help the other kids understand her better after comments such as ‘Madi is dumb’ and ‘Madi doesn’t know anything’. The response to the simple, heartfelt story in which I tried to describe what was going on inside Madi’s head was amazing, and led to other books in the series.

The Series looks at life through the eyes of Madi, a child with autism and explores how she responds to the world, and the challenges she faces dealing with the twin issues of a heightened sensory response to external stimuli and difficulties in communicating her experience to those around her.  The books are written for children to enjoy and learn from, but they are so profound that adults will come away from them with new insights as well. They were originally written to express what I (Madi’s mother) learned about what was going on inside Madi, and to help Madi’s teachers, classmates, and others understand and respond to Madi.  Teachers, parents, and Madi’s classmates found them very helpful, and so I revised them, changed the illustrations, and presented them to the wider world in the hope that they will raise awareness and understanding of the growing reality of autism.

I’d like to think they will help other parents of autistic children to understand their children better and encourage them to see what is possible, and I’d like to think that the wider community might become less fearful of autism and more skilled in relating to people on the autism spectrum and able to appreciate their gifts of concentration and intense experience.

The books are available on my website www.theeverydayautismseries.com.au  $12.95 per book or Set of 4 $39.90 (Plus postage and handling) or contact Monique Cain at media3mt@outlook.com

 

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How is it possible to miss someone you’ve not even met?

My name is Kelly. I’m a full time working wife and mumma to a beautiful almost 2 year old boy, and another little boy due at the end of May. Recently, I spent the night in hospital with gastro and dehydration. It was an awful experience! My first pregnancy was plagued with bleeds, hospital stays, threatened premature labour and an eventual emergency C-section 3 weeks early. Up until the point of my recent hospital stay, I was feeling pretty happy with myself and incredibly blessed, that this pregnancy was cruising along, drama-free. So needless to say, as I lay in my hospital bed, as sick as a dog, I shed a tear of self-pity..

My amazing husband must have realized this so he sent me a photo of himself and my son, smiling into the camera. It immediately warmed my heart to see my boys there, smiling for
me! But at the same time, instantaneously, I was hit with a realization. There’s something missing from this photo. Or someone..

Of course cruising through this pregnancy, like anyone, I’ve been filled with excitement and anticipation at the thought of meeting our newest family member. But it wasn’t until this point that I realized, this little boy growing inside me, is already so much a part of my family, that I feel like he is a missing member, like a missing body part!

As much as I absolutely love my boys, I couldn’t help but feel like this photo was incomplete.

I couldn’t help but feel like all my boys, were not in the photo!

I finally recognized the feeling of had a few tunes recently, when my boys and I were doing quality family things, feeling so happy, yet feeling like something was not quite right.. It’s because I’m missing my second son before he’s even breathed his first breath!

Man, that’s a powerful love! A mother’s love!

So as I lay in my hospital bed looking at the photo of my boys, I started to feel a huge sense of excitement… In a couple years’ time, I would be able to look at a very similar photo of not one, but two little boys, excitedly clamouring over daddy, smiling into the camera at a photo they know is being sent to mummy.

It fills me with so much excitement, and so much love!

Hurry up little bubba D, your mummy, daddy and big brother miss you, and can’t wait to meet you!

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Kelly – @working.mumma

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